Before two people start to take their relationship to the next plane, both parties agree on the terms, personalities and prejudices, of each other. But as relationships age and walls are gradually put down, certain characteristics are brought forth in the open. Most of the time these characteristics were hidden or unnoticeable from the start, but as partners become sensitive, or in some cases the opposite, these traits surface and develop.

One of these characteristics is being moody. Now, being moody is not gender-exclusive. One or both parties can exhibit this trait. As lovers would often say they embrace the whole person of their partner, but doing so occasionally is, if not always, a difficult task. Though being or handling a moody partner is not rare, careful action must be taken to address this. This may make or break a relationship, more so if this is a lingering issue.

It is difficult to understand another if one is clouded with anger or prejudice. It takes integrity to show concern amidst a fight and to seek common ground. The goal is not to sweep the issue under the rug, but to address it fully. There are a number of different aspects on which to care for a moody partner:

(1) Seek to understand. All things are not without reason, and as for those who do, they are not within our power to control. Learn to see an issue subjectively, looking past the trivialities of the current situation, and look for the root of the behavior. This may take plenty of time investment, but the benefits outweigh them in the long run. Seeing as one reaches out in a different light, the partner will take it as an act of love and concern, rather than of dominion or control if approached with authority or logic. This will make one more responsive as well; for one cannot be angry at another if one can fully understand the reason behind the actions and attitude of another.

(2) Adjust yourself accordingly. As long as no true value will be compromised, learn to give way to you partner. This may require a deep personal integrity and love from the yielder’s viewpoint, but see this as an act of investment for the relationship. Adjust your habits and attitudes so that minimal issues will arise, keeping in mind that the only way to get the best of a fight is to avoid it altogether. Now adjusting yourself accordingly means much more. Spoiling the other may also spoil the relationship for the yielder. Always let your mind be detached from the situation where due diligence is called for. This will help both parties to level the field and look at the issue for what it is and from where to fix it, because a problem gives rise to another if only temporary fixes are applied.

Let partners seek for a way to always resolve the issue at its roots, not the situation only. Understanding goes a long way, as long as both parties commit themselves to a process of growth and nourishment together.

 

Comments

  1. Moody people are always moody so before marriage, you should have know what you sign up for before the marriage and the solutions to that characteristics (maybe it’s a hug or it’s about leaving the person, or having a chat with him or her) . Although I don’t know the feeling but I think taking care of moody person will be the toughest thing.

  2. My partner is moody. But I don’t mind that. I always understand him. I guess that’s the true meaning of love when you can accept everything about the person, not just the positive traits but also the negative ones. I am always patient with him no matter what his mood is because I love him and no one can change that.

  3. I will suggest these solutions to my friend. It has really been an issue to their relationship for the past two months and she is trying to quit the relationship since she has tried her best to make her partner smile for at least a short while. I pray it works out for them. Nice piece.

  4. As with most things in life, romantic relationships are, for many of us, a double-edged sword while most find it pleasing to love and be loved, emergent intimate emotional ties to someone makes us emotionally vulnerable not only to being hurt by our partner’s opinions of and feelings toward us but also susceptible to being affected by our partner’s bad tempers. If a colleague or a friend gets depressed, we’re often able to offer a comforting word or two without ourselves being drawn into his or her emotional maelstrom. When our partner becomes depressed or sad or angry or jealous or anxious, however, our own emotions are often triggered in unpleasant ways.

  5. My present relationship is the best example for a moody partner and to worsen the situation, I sometimes get hot under the collar when she’s moody. Learned a lot to manage myself to best fit her mood, thanks to this article. Very professional advice given in simple language.

  6. Another ingredient in a successful relationship is understanding. If you find yourself in a relationship with a moody partner, you need to learn how to understand his/her personality. It is definitely not easy. But if you really love your partner and want to make your relationship work, you need to put in a lot of effort. Nothing comes easy in this world, especially when it comes to relationships.

  7. Me as a super moody person, I really feel that there are only few who can handle me or this kind of situation, specifically in a relationship. It takes a lot of time and patience in order to conquer his/mood. If you love him/her, then love is the answer and patience is a virtue.

  8. Although, it is really hard to take care of someone who is very moody since you do not know what to expect. However, if you really loved someone, you would not leave him or her just because they are moody. They just need a lot of patience, love and understanding.

  9. Adjust yourself accordingly. As long as no true value will be compromised, learn to give way to you partner. This may require a deep personal integrity and love from the yielder’s viewpoint, but see this as an act of investment for the relationship. Adjust your habits and attitudes so that minimal issues will arise, keeping in mind that the only way to get the best of a fight is to avoid it altogether.

  10. Compromise is the key word in cases where both parties are moody. They cannot be like two rubbing stones or they might just clash. So if one is “in the zone”, I think it is best if the other takes a step back a little and talk about it later.

    1. I agree with Athena. It is best not to confront the sour mood of your partner. Better wait until he calms down and then talk.

  11. Having a partner with a moody characteristics is really a challenge. It take a lot of patient for us to understand them. but if you really love the person his/ her mood-swings don’t matter at all. it is the one of the struggles during the relationship. we must get to know our partners more.

  12. Thanks for the post.I always understand him. I guess that’s the true meaning of love when you can accept everything about the person, not just the positive traits but also the negative ones. I am always patient with him no matter what his mood is because I love him and no one can change that.

  13. I think that everyone have that moment to get nervous , shouting, fell sadness that the nutural of the human ,we just need to Listen to our partner when he get nervous or shouting and trying to absorb his/her anger As we can , and we shouldn’t disrespect his/her anger or sadness.

  14. For some moment I am so happy then suddenly I just get so mad that I don’t want to talk for days or would just give a cold reply. I have mood swings, I know. But I was lucky enough that the guy I am with is so understanding with my sudden jolts of emotions and moods. He will just tell me that I am just being dramatic and all and would try to be so funny that he sound like a clown hanging in a swing and would sometimes shower me with surprises that will just lift my mood. Of course being moody doesn’t just comes out of the blue. There are reasons behind it but, being patient with moody people brings them closer to you.

  15. When you love the other person then their mood swings don’t bother you much. When you realise your partner is not in a good mood stay with your partner and try to refresh his/her mood. Even if your partner doesn’t talk to you sit with your partner don’t leave him/her alone and your partner will feel better after some time.

  16. I can say that everyone is moody and we should keep in mind that people have their own limitation. Now it’s up to both parties how they can handle or tolerate each other. And be able to surpass the challenges and difficulties of being a lifetime partner. Remember the vows that you have made.

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