Before two people start to take their relationship to the next plane, both parties agree on the terms, personalities and prejudices, of each other. But as relationships age and walls are gradually put down, certain characteristics are brought forth in the open. Most of the time these characteristics were hidden or unnoticeable from the start, but as partners become sensitive, or in some cases the opposite, these traits surface and develop.
One of these characteristics is being moody. Now, being moody is not gender-exclusive. One or both parties can exhibit this trait. As lovers would often say they embrace the whole person of their partner, but doing so occasionally is, if not always, a difficult task. Though being or handling a moody partner is not rare, careful action must be taken to address this. This may make or break a relationship, more so if this is a lingering issue.
It is difficult to understand another if one is clouded with anger or prejudice. It takes integrity to show concern amidst a fight and to seek common ground. The goal is not to sweep the issue under the rug, but to address it fully. There are a number of different aspects on which to care for a moody partner:
(1) Seek to understand. All things are not without reason, and as for those who do, they are not within our power to control. Learn to see an issue subjectively, looking past the trivialities of the current situation, and look for the root of the behavior. This may take plenty of time investment, but the benefits outweigh them in the long run. Seeing as one reaches out in a different light, the partner will take it as an act of love and concern, rather than of dominion or control if approached with authority or logic. This will make one more responsive as well; for one cannot be angry at another if one can fully understand the reason behind the actions and attitude of another.
(2) Adjust yourself accordingly. As long as no true value will be compromised, learn to give way to you partner. This may require a deep personal integrity and love from the yielder’s viewpoint, but see this as an act of investment for the relationship. Adjust your habits and attitudes so that minimal issues will arise, keeping in mind that the only way to get the best of a fight is to avoid it altogether. Now adjusting yourself accordingly means much more. Spoiling the other may also spoil the relationship for the yielder. Always let your mind be detached from the situation where due diligence is called for. This will help both parties to level the field and look at the issue for what it is and from where to fix it, because a problem gives rise to another if only temporary fixes are applied.
Let partners seek for a way to always resolve the issue at its roots, not the situation only. Understanding goes a long way, as long as both parties commit themselves to a process of growth and nourishment together.